Tuesday, April 12, 2016

100 Cups Of Coffee: #16

100 Cups Of Coffee is my journey through divorce, dating and self discovery. 

A little background reading and information for you all. My single life journey began a year ago, when I decided to leave my husband. I cannot believe that. It feels like yesterday and forever ago. It feels like I've been alone forever and that I've not had enough time alone.

In this past year, I've found more love for myself. I'm proud of where I've come in a year and the life I've created for me. Soon after leaving my husband I was ready to find the love I thought I never received.  I quickly feel into the Tinder trap.
16. Starbucks. Culver City, CA. Black coffee.

Tinder downloaded. Welcome to the crazy world of adult dating…

...the good, the bad and the ugly.
Two months after I decided to leave my husband…I also decided I was ready to begin dating for the first time ever in my adult life.
My husband and I were eighteen when we started dating and were married at twenty-five. My entire adult life I was in a cocoon of comfort and ease. Once I popped that bubble, all the crazy feels I thought I had before moved in a direction I'd never navigated before, multiplied by one hundred.
Introducing Tinder. I had heard about it, but never really knew what it was. I thought I would give it a shot. YOLO and all.
So what the fuck is Tinder? Tinder came out while I was still in my marriage. I always feel super old when these “cool” new apps come out and I have no idea what they are and everyone is talking about them {Snapchat I’m looking at you!}. After two months of moping and feeling sorry for myself I decided one particularly lonely night…what the hell, downloaded it, set up my profile and the Swipe-a-thon began.
I had to rip the dating band aid off and what other way to get over my rebound than to date all the guys in LA?! Starting with lucky ginger number one and coffee. I have a type, what can I say?
Walking into the Culver City Starbucks, I found myself completely at ease going into this very first date of my adult life. I enjoy talking and meeting new people. No expectations. As a test to this first ginger, I have my Harry Potter Deathly Hallows tattoo completely visible. I want to find someone who is nerdy for the same things that I am. Guess what? He recognized the symbol! It only took half the date.
A couple hours later, our coffee drunk, we drop our cups in a nearby trash can on the way to our cars. We said our goodbyes and I go to cross the street to my car, he grabs my hand, pulls me back sharply into a kiss with all the chemistry I ever wanted to feel. It quickly darted from my lips to my toes. It was straight out of a movie. Shit. He even lifted me up! #swoon. In that moment I knew that what I wanted all these years could be real. My overly emotional heart and brain had thought they had found the one right out the gate and it was only because of the kiss…

Drink in more cups HERE!


TK said...

I'm sorry again you went through this hardship, but it certainly sounds like you've found happiness now. My boyfriend and I have been dating for just a little longer than you had when you got married. I'm always surprised at how many people (most family members included) try to pressure me into marriage. I'll get married when I want to. Chill.

skorpeo said...

I didn't realize this was a flashback, and thought you went back to Tinder.

My apologies to all my office coworkers for screaming "NOOOOOOO!!!" at my computer....

Kay said...

I STILL don't get Snapchat haha!

Megan Gotch said...

It is easy now Kay! LOL xx

Megan Gotch said...

LOL I love this!! Thank you for caring! No more Tinder for me!! xx

Megan Gotch said...

Wow that is so great babe! I'm so happy for you! You get married when YOU want to get married! It's YOUR life!!! xx

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