Sunday, November 8, 2020

#100cupsofcoffee // double ghosted ☕

100 Cups Of Coffee is my journey through divorce, dating & self discovery. 

My single journey began in 2015, when I decided to leave my husband & again when Ocean Eyes broke up with me in May 2020. It all feels like forever ago. The ghosts of a life in transition.

 

2020, brought all the self love. I'm proud of where I am, guided by therapy and a new found self awareness. Soon after leaving my husband I was ready to find the love I felt I never received. I quickly fell into the Tinder trap. Today it’s a Bumble bubble. Will I find my person this time around? Boundaries in place. May the odds be ever in my favor.

 

The season changed and so did I. Ready to put myself out there again. A week after my most resent ghosting, I was ready to give it another go. To my surprise, Hinge presented me with someone I recognized.

 

Back in July we had an amazing conversation on Match for almost two hours. Ending with him giving me his phone number. I was still waiting on numéro un deuxième partie, who had by this point ghosted me. I was trying to move on, so I texted Match the following morning. Nothing. 🤷🏻‍♀️

 

Back in present day and there he is on Hinge. Same profile pic. I swiped and we matched again. I opened with a "hey stranger!" He didn’t remember me. Clearly. Though I did give him a small amount of shit for it. We had another great conversation that this time ended in plans. When it came time to exchange numbers, 

“Wow weren’t lying, you do have my number.”


Indeed. We planned for the following day. His birthday. Weird?


You know when you can look back on a situation and realize that you were forcing it? I think this was a good reminder. We were very much opposites. Which sometimes opposites attract? I'm an extrovert, he introvert. Me creative, he logical. This time opposites didn't attract. And it made me realize that I do appreciate a partner who can match my enthusiasm for all things.


But when you are searching for love, sometimes it takes a ghosting to realize a mismatch. And for that I am thankful.


Double ghosted.


Lesson learned: People will show you who they are. Let them. 

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